happiness as a condition?

can we really be happy as a permanent condition the way we have been conditioned to think as such? don't we remember those all too familiar forever after's in disney movies and cartoons? is there really a bed of roses waiting for you and your valentine to tuck into at the end of the road of loneliness? i am sorry to disappoint but the sad truth for the larger portion of us is this: the only light at the end of the tunnel is from that oncoming train you heard when it was 100km away. the only reason you did not hear it was because you were obliviously dancing to whitney houston's 'i will always love you', eagerly dreaming about that elusive other half thats awaiting your kiss to finally become a prince/princess again.

i like to think of happiness as a collection of fleeting moments. indeed the value of each cherished moment immediately seems to go up north when we realize how rare it is moments of genuine pure happiness actually surface in our daily lives. looking around one might wonder what there really is to celebrate these days anyway? hunger, poverty, AIDS, tsunamis, terrorism, global warming, earthquakes, sarah palin.

everything is transient. nothing lasts forever. it is not being pessimistic, but optimistically realistic. when we truly grasp the impermanence of it all, we learn how we can truly be happy by appreciating the fragility and vulnerability of each flashing moment. once we are led to believe that it is a natural condition that is awaiting to be discovered when we meet the ONE, we only end up taking it for granted with the passing of time. we believe that happiness was the end of the process of looking like a natural progression granted when we meet the ONE when the entire relationship is an ongoing process that requires effort to create and recreate new moments to be kept in the memory bank.